Wow! As I think about the brunch yesterday, I just say ‘Wow!’. It was amazing. I extended an offer to 12 women to come connect, eat, network, and find support. I invited single moms I knew and I opened it up to women online and in the Dallas area.
The venue was superb and cute- Ida Claire in Dallas. They have fancy, Southern cuisine that makes your mouth go “Ooooh. Aaaaah. Yummmm.” Lol! Delish!
Alas, many signed up, but only one showed up.
Now, some would say it was a failure. Not me! As I was planning the event, I said, “God, help me be just what these women need. Whoever shows up, let them leave better.”
You know we do that as women. We go straight to failure if it didn’t fit the dream we had. We second guess our awesome, we judge our successes by other people’s, and we stand back in false humility when we really ROCK!
Farm Bird is the name.. Glory is what I call it. My lunch at Ida Claire.
However, we should be judging ourselves by how far we’ve come, the lives we have touched, and the fact that we started…Darn it! I am enjoying this ride (myself). This pushing of me to new levels, so I can serve others is awesome!
One way I pushed myself was to host this brunch. Instead of planning for a year, for a bigger event, for whatever excuse I have been making, I just did it! And you know what, it was good. I learned what to do next time, I have one marketing wise. So win! But the value the young single mom received and the support she garnered was life-changing because she was the only one. Read on to find out how:
Community
By kicking fear in the pants and coming to a brunch hosted by a stranger, she found community. She now has one more person she knows and one person that has gone through what she is going through.
I found someone to help push my purpose out. She found a guide to help her release hers. Win-Win.
Brunch in the Mobile at Ida Claire. Rashida Thomas came to support!
Insight
She gained insight into why she was tolerating what she was; she gained parenting tips; and she learned how to assess what she really wants in life. She learned it’s okay to want it and to move towards it.
Help
She learned help is really a step out of timidity away. Also, you have to ask for help to get it. Where lies your breakthrough into peace, greatness, better? Who can you ask, what can you do, and where can you go to find it?
Strength
This is my fave! She found out how strong she was. As I was coaching her, my girls who came to support me stepped in. She found she could live her best life now and it was her who was standing in the way.
Don’t stay stuck in anything that does not serve you. Find your strength, and you’ll find your fight!
Well chile, as one of my girlfriends said on Periscope, “You missed a good brunch. Be here next time.” Always make time for things that pour in to you (no shade. Doesn’t have to be my event). Make sure to come out next time and remember pouring into you is what I do, but you can also pour into yourself. It’s time to grow by going. Try something new. Get out of your comfort zone. Live!
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Hi there Kaywanda! Thank you for hosting the brunch. I would’ve been there but I live in Japan however, I suggested that my sister go because we are both in similar situations and she was the one who showed up.
And thank you so much on behalf of both of us for you getting out there and finding your “why”. We are both struggling and as for myself,receiving your daily posts are really helping me as I inch toward finding my “why”.
Having just turned 40 and I having just become a single mom of a two-year-old and finding my life in a mess has been and emotional and financial shock. I’m trying to dig myself out of the hole and making mistakes left and right that seem to keep sinking me deeper. Struggling to keep the depression at bay. And I feel like that’s the only area where I am succeeding.
I won’t give up hope though and you are helping me to keep going so once again thank you and I hope that one day I’ll be able to meet you along with my sister sometime in the future. ?
Michelle in Japan
Omg! I’m crying right now! Thank you for responding and letting me know. I’m so glad my writings about life help you through. You are going to make it! You do what you must and know you are doing a great job! Your baby is so blessed! Not to mention how blessed your baby is to have the experience if growing up in a different culture.
Just keep showing up every day! One day, you’ll be in the place you seek. I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true. One step in the right direction will turn into your blessed place!
I enjoyed your lil sis. So beautiful and a light! My girlfriends and I just loved on her. We’ll do another one soon! Yes, we all shall meet at some point I’m certain. When we do, it’ll be to celebrate our overcoming!!!! Woo!!!
Blessings!!!
Kaydy